This final part of the series is about how head and heart compete when making clothes choices. It talks about the reality of styles you see in pictures and want to emulate and if they would really work on you. A trap we all fall into on a daily basis on Instagram. We see those pictures of our favourite style icons wearing the latest it skirt /dress and they look amazing. So we buy buy buy and then wonder why it doesn’t look as good as the image we had in our head or why you never find the right occasion to wear it because to put it bluntly, you don’t have the same lifestyle as that Instagram fashion blogger you follow.
So what is a girl to do? Do you abandon your dream of looking as stylish as those gorgeous pictures on social media. Definitely not. We all deserve to look as fabulous as we dare to dream. We just have to apply a smidgen of reality. I am calling it “Style & Sensibility”… And yes I made that up !!
This is where the use of Pinterest comes into it’s own. I have a vast number of Pins of the styles I love. Feel free to wander over to Pinterest and take at look at my boards here. Please don’t judge my Pin organisation…. I am a OCD neat freak. I have a very tidy mind and I really can’t cope with mess, and yes that even extends to my Pinterest Boards!!
Like many other women, I use these pictures as inspiration and then adapt them for my everyday life.
I love the effortless casual style of Parisian women. such as those in the pictures below, which are a couple of my favourite looks.
I spend most of my time at work and I want to incorporate my dream style into my everyday outfits but many of these are not suitable for my work attire so I need to tweak them slightly whilst still trying to retain the original style element.
It is not appropriate for me to wear jeans to work (which is why it still baffles me as to why I think I need to own over 20 pairs – but I love them and most styles suit me so they are staying). So to replicate this style I need to replace the jeans with skinny fit ankle grazer trousers. I can wear the same style tops to work which is great as I have a wardrobe full of shirts, fitted jumpers and blazers.
Footwear is the main issue for me. I love wearing heels and absolutely hate flats, probably because I am a shorty, but sky high stilettos are so not practical for me on any level other than date night. So I tend to opt for a mid heel or a wedge. I also love trainers (my husband hates them) and I have a small collection which I wear with jeans and skirts or dresses when I am out and about or at my local pub. I love the laid back smart casual look. And so I can emulate the Parisian style with a few minor tweaks.
I also love the images of on Instagram of ladies in boho dresses and floral maxi dresses but as much as I have tried I cannot pull off this style and I have now stopped depressing myself by attempting to emulate those beautiful slim, usually tall, ladies who just look so effortlessly gorgeous in long flowing dresses. Sometimes it is necessary to admit defeat. I am never going to look like that so I should really concentrate on dressing in what looks fabulous on me.
So now I have more items to add to my “Wow Wardrobe” list….. Skinny trousers, shirts, blazers, mid-heels, simple stylish easy to wear items. And to be thrown on the OUT pile…. Wide leg trousers, comfortable shapeless tops in an array of colour and pattern that are always worn with black trousers.
This weekend I am starting the physical clear out. I am excited but also a little scared. I have always been a clothes hoarder and it will be hard for me to accept that I do not need to own as many clothes as I currently have. But I need to be honest about the clothes I own and how many of them really do very little for me. The only way to stop wearing clothes that do not look amazing on me is to get rid of them.
So how do you manage the draw of wanting to emulate what you see on others? Do you have a dream style that you aspire to wear. Maybe you have already managed to find your signature style. As always I would love to hear from you.
Thank you for reading.